All parties involved

To say that everyone has control of their own emotions and everyone should be able to control their own tongue is very true. But in marriage it’s naive to think my wife and I don’t have a very large portion of influence over each other as far as emotions are concerned.

An example…..

We really as husbands and wives, or those of us in deep relationships, have the ability to truly push the needle with each other. So for example, my wife and I got into an argument recently where I decided she was a little to unemotional for me and flat during the argument. To elicit more of a response from her, I made more of an outward show. At that moment I was wrong. I wasn’t just arguing with my wife solely based on a disagreement. I was now pushing for an reaction from her that would suffice for the level of emotional buy in I thought I needed from her. Toxic right? I’m not perfect. At that moment I was chasing after a feeling I did not need.

The influence….

We all have parents, sisters, or brothers correct? My wife and I, like all of us, didn’t get the opportunity to choose our families. But any relationship outside of those individuals, we chose. For me and Janaea we did choose each other. When we choose the people in our life we have so much more riding on that relationship. We’re invested in it like a house or a car we bought with our own money.

The commitment…..

That commitment that we take at the altar is serious—“the two shall become one.” My voice, my words. A prayer of mine is that my thoughts should be like my wife’s and that my wife’s should be like mine .

“This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” ‭‭Genesis‬ ‭2:24‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Last example-I promise. We see that with and…. not to make a joke of this statement, but in the movie Spider-Man, Uncle Ben’s character tells his nephew Spider-Man that “with great power, comes great responsibility.” That is very true, for husbands and wives we hold great power and influence over each other. And a great responsibility to wield that power properly, purposefully, responsibly, respectfully, and lovingly.

“In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies. For a man who loves his wife actually shows love for himself.” ‭‭Ephesians‬ ‭5:28‬ ‭NLT‬‬